Love and Life Talk

Why do we never talk about what Men feel?

We live in a time where most people acknowledge the fact, that the famous quote of "boys don't cry" is a lie.

Don't you think it's been high time to break the notion that ‘men don't have feelings or they feel way too less than women’?

They sure are complicated beings but nobody seems to care or pay enough attention to simplify their complications. All women do is blame guys for cheating or some other crappy stuff they do or did.

Some even use them as per their requirements. (GROSS! I KNOW BUT TRUE.)

But How much do we really know about men?

I know guys either don’t talk about their feelings or talk way too less for it to be a real thing.

So let’s make it as important as it should be.

They are being misjudged so many times because they lack the ability to express their emotions.

Men's emotions are delicate if you ask me.

They deserve to be understood with genuine compassion.

Guys won’t ask but they do want the appreciation and emotional support from time to time.

And don’t think for a second that they do not ask emotional support and care because they are too proud to ask instead they do not want us to be worried for them.

Well long story short, men don’t want others to get worried so they hide all of it and pretend as best they could. I am not saying all men are the same.

I do agree that there are some assholes in the world but again, they became like that because nobody was there for them to understand them, so instead, they pretended and pretended until it became their reality. Or maybe they are still waiting for someone to understand them.

Who knows? That’s exactly my point.

We don’t know because we do not give them enough importance at the time.

Every guy you know may that be your brother, friend, boyfriend, etc. stop blaming and accusing them all the time and try to understand them for once.

Guys always do so many things silently and never get the appreciation and credit for it.

Now ladies! I know, for you, your world revolves around yourself but give yourself a chance to understand them, care for them and support them. Especially in their hardest times and they might just love you even more for it.

Maybe you might find a whole new person behind those tough looks and silent eyes.

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Wednesday, September 25, 2019 5 comments

We never talk about our heartbreaks with our friends and family. And why would we really? It’s hard enough to think about it let alone talk about it.

But its there, the pain, its always there.

We just put on a really good mask to hide all of it from others. And you don’t have to accept it me or others obviously but deep down you know you do put a mask. Not now maybe but once in a while you do and I know some of us still do.

But when we hear a song or words that relate to our pain, it instantly becomes our favorite.

Doesn't it?

Somehow in all the hiding, we forget it’s changing us along the way. And we don’t even notice it until it’s far too long to go back. I am not saying it’s a bad choice. Nobody can tell you that.

But we don’t think of the consequences when we put that mask.

It's not every day that we face the pain of a broken heart and I believe we all have faced it once in our life till now.

I am not going to suggest you talk your friends and family because I am not entirely sure that works anyhow.

Somethings are cannot be understood by anyone but you.

We have to deal with this on our own and in our own ways. (And I am not talking about drastic actions. Don’t be self-destructive.)

Somehow our main enemy is our mind. The worst part is, it has all the memories you want to keep and don’t want to keep at the same time.

It’s frustrating and exhausting!

If you want to ride that storm alone, I am no one to tell you otherwise. But decide first that you want to keep your mask of ‘so-called everything is okay and happy’ ON or NOT.

Because if you do put it then you are splitting yourself into two parts, one for the world to show and other for you to bear alone.

Which I am sure you already know!

But be prepared to be changed in many ways than you hadn’t thought of or imagined.

And those who are not putting masks, well fellas take it easy you still have a broken heart to mend. The world is not very helping when it comes to people with broken hearts.

Or so I have noticed.

Do You Think A Broken Heart Is What Changes People?

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Thursday, September 19, 2019 1 comments

You can't expect a relationship to live forever but do nothing for it. Relationships don't just work on their own somehow. Like a plant it had to be nourished if you want it to grow. But are you confused what to do and what not to? How to make your relationship a dream and not a nightmare?

Let me help you with that. I can't choose your actions for you, obviously, but all I can do is give you a direction for you to head on and have a healthy relationship.

There are a lot of things we can talk about if it comes to save your relationship or if you want to have one. But I am listing here 5 most important things to remember in a relationship.

1. ALWAYS LISTEN

You and I both know half of the time you just pretend to listen to her/ him. Let's just face the fact that even if you are interested a lot in the person, though you are not really always in a mood to listen what they are saying. Since you can't directly say that fact on their face it is obvious that you find an easy way out and just pretend that you listened.

The first key to a person's heart is their own words.

You have to actually listen to whatever boring or illogical conversation, according to you, you are in. I know it doesn't make sense at the time but it means a lot to your partner when they know for a fact that you pay attention. And it also makes them love you even more. Believe me, it works!

2. NO EMOTIONAL BLACKMAILS.

In the beginning, it might not seem a big deal to you or your partner but as your relationship grows older and you continue to do the same 'emotional drama' just to get your demands done, trust me, it's going to get ugly soon enough. You might not notice but your partner will start to build a disgusting attitude towards you.

A small piece of advice, is to make them believe in your views and opinion. Let them know how you feel and what you need instead of blackmailing them for what you want.

3. STOP PLAYING INSECURITY CARD.

It's okay to feel protective of someone you love. But meaningless obsession over your partner is going to drive you crazy. There is no guarantee he/she is going to stay with you for the rest of your life. Even marriages have an option to break them, called divorce. They can walk out on you tomorrow for all you know but also they might not be and you are just ruining the precious bond over some may or may not be thing. So there is no point obsessing about your relationship just to make sure your partner will stay forever.

There is only one thing you can do, love what you have right now. It's just enough for your relationship, and maybe it will live a small forever of its own.

4. DON'T BE TOO CLINGY.

It often happens that you expect way too much from your partner. I mean they are human too right? They have their own lives to live as well. They love you and want to give you every happiness you deserve but it doesn't mean you have to poke them every five minutes.

Give them some space, let them live a little without you hovering all the time.

5. RESPECT THEIR CHOICES.

Whether it's intimacy or life decisions you have to remember they have a choice. They always got a vote in this. Don't just impose whatever is in your mind and expect them to be just fine with it!

It doesn't mean you can't say what's on your mind regarding relationship. You can always put your point of view in front of your partner and then let them decide.

Their choice is all they got in this relationship besides you! Remember that.

Thanks for reading it!

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Saturday, September 07, 2019 1 comments

If I would say you are hiding secrets. Like even 'your best friends and love of your life doesn't have a clue about it', kind of secrets.

Would you agree to that? Of course, you wouldn't.

What kind of question is that? Right?

But you know all too well, you have one of those secrets which you do want to tell someone. 'Someone close, someone who would understand', but you know you just can't, because of some messed up obvious reasons of yours.

It is complicated. I KNOW!

You think about those secrets at least once in a while. Maybe not intentionally but they just pop up in your head even if you don’t want to remember them at all. Even though it doesn’t matter anymore but you just can’t let them out either.

So when I asked you in the beginning, you would definitely deny at the very moment. DUH! SO OBVIOUS.

EVERYONE HAS THEIR OWN SECRETS. No judgments by the way.

I want to talk about the fact how easy it for us to deny the existence of something that was (or maybe still is) so important to us that we still keep it as a secret. Don’t you sometimes want to tell the way you feel about all this without any judgments and misunderstandings? The fact that you can’t really do it, is because you don’t want to hurt the people you love and care about, by simply telling your secret, or you don’t want them to think less of you, or maybe because you might feel vulnerable just by the thought of other person knowing your darkest secret.

Telling your deepest secrets would be like allowing someone to know a part of you which you have kept at bay for so long.

But you might mostly choose the easy way out of this and keep your scary secrets and your thoughts aside. And finally at the end you chose to never touch them again. NO SURPRISES THERE RIGHT?

But It’s okay to be confused in a situation like these. I know it’s a tough call to make. Your mind revolves around so many hypothetical scenarios. And with all that, you have to decide whether to trust someone with your secret or not.

For those in doubt, let me just say it’s okay!

I never fully understood what should we do about it either and most importantly, why? Isn’t hiding is much easier than actually facing the truth.

IT IS. Isn’t it?

But think about it and ask yourself, are you really going to live a life where even ‘love of your life’ only knows a part of you? What about your remaining hidden personality which nobody knows about? Yet, You want to hide the truth and that too, by your own free will.

AND

Expect to have no consequences of it at all.

Does it sound too dramatic? Because someday it will be! Yes, surely not today and not tomorrow but SOMEDAY!

You have to move on someday from your past to live your present. And to sever the ties of past, you have to let go of the part of your life which you had tucked away in some corner of your mind and which now you call your little secrets.

Nobody said it’s the easiest way but it’s the only way.

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Sunday, September 01, 2019 3 comments

People seem to forget about the essence of their love in the pollution of social media life.

You seem to be wondering at a point, in your 'social media life', that, what is the point of posting all those happy pictures of your relationship when the truth is far from reality. And yet you post it anyways.

Is it your way of declaring your love for your partner or just updating about your love life to other people? Who are you convincing, yourself or them?

Do you ever want to stop worrying about social media or pictures for once and think about actually fixing the broken parts of your relationship?

I know it's not easy to admit that there is actually something wrong with the relationship you are in but there's always is.

Isn't it?

No one's perfect, OBVIOUSLY.

But there's also some truth in the fact that you might be hiding behind happy pictures and actually focusing more on pleasing comments on your post, rather than being more concerned about your partner's happiness.

It is easy, I guess, to avoid the reality of your relationship and make a 'new reality' on social media which people will believe in a heartbeat because it's all rainbows and sunshine to them from the looks of it.

But the truth is something else entirely.

And inside your heart, you will bottle up your words and problems, which you were supposed to share with your partner. Because maybe in your mind it's the simplest way to maintain your relationship.

Let me just burst your bubble of thoughts, right there.

You will burst out one day eventually, metaphorically obviously, and it will be a breaking point at that time and there is no going back from that. Things you will say won't just affect your partner maybe it might end your relationship with them.

Believe me, people who love each other can hurt each other with just their mere words.

Your love for your partner shouldn't just be in pictures, so that, you can show them to the rest of the world. But should be in your eyes, where your partner could see that and feel it every time they have doubts in their mind for you.

Maybe somewhere in your mind, you might believe that those happy posts of yours on social media, which are getting more and more likes is the truth somehow. Maybe you are that happy somehow but think about it, when the world goes back to their business and no one is there to like your happy pictures anymore, how will convince yourself that you have a happy relationship.

If I might give you friendly advice, I would say listen to that little voice of yours coming from your heart that is screaming at you to stop convincing the world of your happiness. And start mending your relationship so that you could actually be as much happy which you claim to be on your social media life.

At the end of the day, it is you, who has to choose which reality you want to live in.

The reality where your relationship actually needs fixing or the 'not so real' reality which you made for yourself.

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Sunday, August 25, 2019 12 comments

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